Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Marriage is hard enough, and scary enough, all on its own. Trying to merge two lives together - even under the most ideal circumstances (whatever those are) - is hard. So why do people insist on putting obstacles in the way? Think about it: you've got two people with their own lives, jobs, families. They meet and fall in love, they're excited - they want to shout to the world. They plan their wedding, a big party to tell everyone how much they love each other - and let me tell you, that planning process is stressful enough on its own.
Now they're living together, and eventually they have to go back to work. Life and time both march on....and that's when things can get hard. Because two adults that have already happily constructed their lives on their own often have a very hard time integrating those two visions together. And when you've done that, you have a good marriage.
So, when two people decide they want to try this, that they want to be committed to each other, when they say "sure it'll be hard, but we're up for it" would think they'd get a little encouragement from everyone who has been there before. You would think married couples all over the world would cheer them on.
You might even think that {gasp} people would be glad that these two specific people could get a little happiness out of life.
Instead, you get this.

1 comment:

Goeve said...

Very valid point. I can't imagine anyone actually advocating a change to the American Constitution to refuse a group of its own citizens what should be a basic and simple right. The constitution was never about denying rights but granting them, ensuring them - it's in the preamble for crying out loud.